Sunday, November 7, 2010


Are You Sick and Tired of the Constant Struggle, Pain, Embarrassment and Humiliation That Jealousy is Causing In Your Relationship and Life?

Is YOUR jealousy causing you to feel scared and afraid that your partner, spouse or lover is going to leave you for someone else and you'll end up alone?
Is Your partner's out-of-control jealousy and constant questions about where you've been, who you've been with and what you were doing-- driving you crazy?
If you're finally ready to say..."Stop the jealousy--I've had enough"then...

 You Need To Stop The Jealousy Now-- 
BEFORE it Rips Your Relationship To Shreds...

First of all,let me define the word "jealousy"... Ok...jealousy is a jealous feeling, disposition, state, or mood and mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry,unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims.

Jealousy in relationships can be normal, but only to a certain degree. When jealousy becomes overbearing or controlling, you may find yourself explaining everything from your whereabouts, to the reason you decided to wear a different fragrance, to explaining you are talking to on the phone. Don't allow someone else insecurities be your reason for loosing yourself. Too much of anything is not good, so if you feel uncomfortable, please take measurems to learn about your options in dealing with a jealous partner.

now,let's move on to the step on " How to Handle Jealousy"... i really need to know about dis step coz i'm the one who need to handle my jealousy in my relationship...ohhh gosh!!! too difficult for me to control my feeling... but i'll try my best...wawawa... need to state that it's not as easy as ABC...really need to know how to control your emotion, your anger when u face the situation dat might coz u to feel jealous wif your partner... some said dat it's natural of life if we get jealous wif someone dat we love coz we afraid of loosing him/her  because of someone else...dat's not da only reason why people get jealous...another reason is, they might feel insecure or maybe not good enough for their partner...

then i start to figure out the solution of diz problem n then i found, take a look at it and don't forget to try ok!!!...


  1.  Understand the emotions. Jealousy is a combination of fear and anger: fear of losing something and anger that someone is "moving in on" something that you feel belongs only to you
  2. Allow yourself to actually 'feel' emotions in a healthy way. When you start feeling jealous, ask yourself: Is it more fear-based or more anger-based, and why? Recognize which part of your body is being affected. If you feel a dropping or clutching sensation in your stomach, it’s probably fear. If you feel a burning, tight sensation in your shoulders and jaw, then you’re likely feeling anger. You might also feel a combination of those sensations.
  3. Communicate your feelings. Sharing your true feelings with someone without blaming them can create a deep sense of connection between the two of you and open up a dialogue about the path of your relationship. Use "I" instead of "you." Instead of saying, "You shouldn't have done that," say, "I felt terrible when that happened."
  4. Identify what your jealousy is teaching you. Jealousy can alert you to what you want and what is important to you. If you’re jealous of someone talking to a friend of yours, personal relationships may be important to you. If you’re jealous about money, you may have an underlying need for security or freedom. Ask yourself, "Why am I jealous over this? What is making me jealous? What am I trying to keep? Why do I feel threatened?" When you begin to understand what makes you jealous, you can begin to take positive steps to maintain those things, without the cloud of negative emotion that accompanies jealousy.
  5. Change any false beliefs that might cause jealousy. There are often false beliefs that underlie jealousy and fuel emotion. If you examine the belief, you can often eliminate the jealousy. Some common underlying beliefs are “Everyone is out to get my money” or “If this person leaves me, I won't have any friends.” Beliefs are changeable. If you change your belief, you change the way you feel. Choose to tell yourself a belief that is nurturing and supportive, and you’ll feel better. When you begin taking steps to creating a happy and fulfilling life for yourself, you will find the anger, the jealousy, and the fear will disappear. Don't listen to people who make you jealous.
  6. Make a list of all your good points and only compare yourself to yourself rather than to others. Raise your sense of self worth and self confidence by acknowledging your accomplishments, inner qualities and other good things about you. One way to change your belief system and inner dialogue, is to journal on a daily basis supportive messages to yourself. In time, your efforts will begin to sink into your subconscious. And as a result, you'll develop new inner strengths, dimenish any envious feelings, and feel more joy within and in life.

that's all from me for today... see u soon...

Enjoy Your Reading My dear! ^__^

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